Friday, June 17, 2016

"Origins Tour" - Akron, Ohio

Flowers from the yard at 855 Ardmore Avenue, Akron, Ohio
2016 marks 81 years since the founding of the 12 Step Program, Alcoholics Anonymous.  June 10, 1935 is regarded as the founding date and Akron, Ohio as the birthplace of AA. The Akron Area Intergroup Council annually hosts Founder's Day Weekend. This year I attended along with 3 friends from Bloomington and nearly 8,000 others from around the U.S. and Canada

Founder's Day Weekend is held on the campus of the University of Akron. We stayed in the dorms, ate meals 'en masse' at the Student Union and attended activities in the basketball arena, the football stadium and other campus locations.
From left: Delinda, Karma & Maureen
From left: Karma, Maureen & Mary
The Akron community (AKA: Rubber City") graciously opened it's doors to the locations of the "historical coincidence" that led to the founding of AA and the 12 Step way of life. On Saturday we visited the places that are featured in the story of AA's pioneering days. There are those who dispute the truth of the Mayflower Hotel portion of the story I will relate. But whether it is all truth or part truth/part rich folklore, it is the origin story that forms the basis of Founder's Day weekend.


And so the story goes: The two individuals credited with the founding are Dr. Robert Smith, Akron physician, and Bill Wilson, businessman and resident of New York State. (Their wives, Anne Smith and Lois Wilson played no small part and are due some credit.)

In May of 1935 Bill Wilson, an unemployed stock broker who had recently established a period of sobriety in his home state of New York, traveled by train to Akron. He came in hopes of establishing himself as President of the National Rubber Machinery Company. However, his efforts failed and he was left with no job, little money and uncertainty about where to turn next. Bill Wilson told the story that he found himself with $10 to his name in the lobby of the Mayflower Hotel in downtown Akron. He was at a turning point: go to the bar or make a phone call for some help. He made the call.


The Mayflower Hotel is no longer the most elegant lodging in Akron, far from it. But the pay phone and the Church Directory are still in place. 
H
Maureen at the Pay Phone
As the story goes, Bill used the Church Directory next to the pay phone. He made contact with Reverend Walter Tunks of St. Paul's Episcopal Church who put him in touch with members of the Oxford Group in Akron. 

In particular he was put in touch with Henrietta Seiberling, Oxford Group member and daughter-in-law of the founder of the Goodyear Tire and Rubber Company.  Separated from her husband, she lived with her two children at the Gate Lodge at Stan Hywet Hall.
Gate Lodge
On Mother's Day, May 12, 1935, Henrietta Seiberling arranged for Dr. Bob Smith to meet Bill Wilson at her residence.  Dr. Bob (who was still drinking and suffering a hangover) agreed to come for a short "15 minutes only" meeting. Henrietta served dinner and then at around 5:00 PM ushered the two men into the Library for privacy. 

Aware that both men struggled with alcoholism, she introduced them in hopes that they would find a way to help one another and others. The meeting lasted until nearly 11:00 PM. 
 The meeting of Dr. Bob and Bill W. has been described by some scholars as one of the most significant events of the 20th Century. The meeting ultimately led to the founding of AA. 

As a result of the leadership role she played in the formation of AA, Henrietta Seiberling was inducted into the Ohio Women's Hall of Fame in October of 1998.
 
 
From Left: Maureen, Delinda & Karma at Gate Lodge

At the time of the Gate Lodge meeting, Dr. Bob and his wife, Anne Smith, lived at 
855 Ardmore Avenue in Akron. 

 

In late May of 1935, Anne Smith asked Bill W to reside with them and help her husband stay sober. June 10, 1935 was the start of sustained abstinence from alcohol for Dr. Bob. This date is considered the founding date of AA and the founding took place in the home on Ardmore Avenue.  

While waiting  on line to view the interior of the house, we could enter the garage. It turns out Dr. Bob was quite the "car guy". The garage is full of large blow-ups of Dr. Bob and his various rides.



Bill Wilson lived with the Smiths from May until the Autumn of 1935. It was in this home that the principles of AA were clarified and a start was made on the First Edition of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. 


Dr. Bob as a young physician.
The bathroom and Dr. Bob's multi-purpose laundry chute!
Anne & Dr. Bob's bedroom.  

  
And the Ardmore Avenue coffee pot....

In 1984 Wesley Parrish of Pompano Beach, Florida spearheaded the idea of creating a non-profit foundation to purchase and maintain Dr. Bob and Anne's home as a historic site. In May 1985 the home was officially incorporated as a non-profit  and gained a zoning variance to allow for the designation as a "museum".

In October 1985 the home received designation as a State Historical Site. At the same time and through the efforts of U.S. Congressman John Sieberling, Henrietta's son, the home was listed on the registry of National Historical places.  

In May of 2011 an internal restoration project was completed. On October 17, 2012 Dr. Bob & Anne's home received the prestigious designation of National Historical Landmark. 

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And to close the day on Saturday, we attended an evening meeting at the University of Akron football stadium. Most of the 8,000 were in attendance.
 
 
We met up with friends Sharon  and Lisa (with Maureen)









In closing, no tour of AA history in Akron is complete without mention of 
Sister Ignatia.  

On August 16, 1935, Sister Ignatia Gavin, a frail but feisty Catholic sister in charge of admissions at St. Thomas Hospital in Akron, admitted the first alcoholic patient under the diagnosis of acute gastritis. She was assisted by Dr. Bob Smith, thus making St. Thomas Hospital the first hospital in the world to treat alcoholism as a medical condition.
Soon, she provided a ward for men to sober up and St. Thomas Hospital became the first religious institution to recognize the rights of alcoholics to receive hospital treatment. Today, many of AA's practices -- including the use of tokens to mark milestones in sobriety -- find their origins with Sister Ignatia. She was also an early advocate of lots of coffee for those in recovery!
Photo not mine; attributed to Google!
 Ignatia Chapel, St. Thomas Hospital
Akron, Ohio
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Grant us the serenity
To accept the things we cannot change,
The courage to change the things we can,
And the wisdom to know the difference

Signing off with gratitude to my travel companions, Delinda, Karma and Maureen.
(All full face photos are posted with permission.)

Saturday, May 7, 2016

A Short Trip

I was thinking of putting something together in recognition of Mother's Day so I took just a short trip out my front door to the flower bed running alongside my house. The Iris patch is especially bountiful this Spring. And we had a light rain this afternoon.


Praying
by Mary Oliver

It doesn't have to be
the blue iris, it could be
weeds in a vacant lot, or a few
small stones; just
pay attention, then patch

a few words together and don't try
to make them elaborate, this isn't
a contest but the doorway

into thanks, and a silence in which
another voice may speak. 


 Happy Mother's Day to all those who embody in spirit and action the role of "Mother". 


 

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

What Is A Journey?: A Post for Carrie

January 2016
It is definitely winter here in Indiana; mid-January with several snowfalls on the ground, blowing winds and temps well below freezing. In lieu of actually packing my bags for a trip, I am asking myself, What is a journey? What do we mean when we talk about a journey or the journey or my journey? Is it a noun as in a trip, an expedition, a pilgrimage, a jaunt? Is it a verb as in to ramble, trek or wander? Is it simply an act of traveling from one place to another, one fixed point to a destination? Or does it also suggest journeying as a process of personal change and development, such as from youth to old age?

Certainly any two or ten or a hundred people could begin from the same starting point with the same end point in mind. A fixed destination may be reached by many people. But it is in the individual journey where the worth and value are found. Think of water. It falls as rain. Just rain. But the rain falls into streams which flow into rivers which flow into oceans. In it's journey rain serves animals, people and communities who use it for their needs, for their survival. Simple rain becomes a vital resource. It is in the journey that the value of rain is revealed.

Which has me thinking about the part that memories play in our overall journey. And perhaps, more importantly, at specific points along the way where the challenges might be the greatest and the need to steady ourselves the strongest. 

This post is for my niece, Carrie, who is currently facing her own very challenging circumstances. My intention is to jog some memories with a few pictures of her journey that I pulled from our family archives. Memories are treasures that live forever in our hearts. They let us know that we exist within a constellation of people and events that live within us and outside of us. Memories can be a source of strength and enable us to continue on with our journey for whatever life has in store for us. 

In Carrie's case, let them remind her of family and just how much she is loved and respected. This one's for you!
 
Carrie Eileen Hambly Anderson
I took the above picture many years ago with my very first 35mm camera. To this day it ranks as one of my all time favorite photos I have taken.

I think we can just start at the beginning!
Carrie and her older brother, Todd.
Christmas (maybe)1962: Carrie with Aunt Pam, Todd and Aunt Mary
 Gotta love that big Hambly Christmas tree with Grandpa Ross's carefully placed tinsel!
1968
A spontaneous Polaroid snapshot of Carrie, her Dad (long before Tony Soprano), her Grandpa Ross and Grandma Eileen.
Above snapshot looks like the aftermath of a big family dinner/gathering at the cabin at Tulalip. 
Christmas 1968: Todd & Carrie

 Who said those school pictures would never come in handy!
Yakima 1971: Carrie (with sister, Stacy, hamming it up!)
Summer 1976: Carrie, Stacy and Aunt Mary at Tulalip


With Aunt Pam
And Uncle Jim (AKA: Bradford)

"It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matters in the end."   -(Author) Ursula K. Le Guin
Christmas 1988 with son Darryl at 5 years old
Easter 2004: With sons Darryl (left) and Derrick (right)

Carrie with (back row) brothers Ron and Danny, (front row) brother Todd, sister Stacy and son, Derrick.
December 2013 at La Conner: The occasion of Grandpa Ross's 100th Birthday Party
  Carrie and (back row) her Dad, Leary, and Stepmother, Pat, 
(front row) Uncle John and Aunt Nancy


Signing off with affection and appreciation for that particular quality of the "snapshot" to capture random moments for the time capsule in our memory. Through the snapshot we can recognize that we are not alone. After all, someone else was there with us at that point in the journey to take the picture, record the random moment, and later, maybe jog our memory.
To Carrie, sending great love, support and faith. 
Aunt Mary


Traveling at Home
by Wendell Berry

Even in a country you know by heart
it's hard to go the same way twice.
The life of the going changes.
The chances change and make a new way. 
Any tree or stone or bird
can be the bud of a new direction. The
 natural correction is to make intent
of accident. To get back before dark
is the art of going.